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Loss of a Pet
People who have never felt the acute loss of a pet cannot understand how deeply owners feel grief and guilt when an animal dies or has to be put to sleep. I understand these feelings very well and can sympathise with anyone dealing with these emotions.
One of the reasons that we feel so bad when we lose a pet is that we are responsible for their well being, and ultimately for their death. We accept this responsibility when we take on a pet, but are not necessarily aware of how this responsibility can produce such strong feelings of guilt especially when we have to take the decision to put an animal to sleep – even for the best reasons.
If just thinking about your pet brings tears to your eyes and a lump in your throat, just tap the points without saying anything. This will calm you down, ready to start. Take a deep breath and begin tapping. It is almost certain that you will need to tap for both grief and guilt, so use your intuition to decide which to work on first.
For grief
Even though I miss my …………… so much, every time I …………, I accept my feelings, my misery and my loss, and I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though ………… was my closest companion for so many years, and loved him (her) dearly, I accept his (her) death, and my feelings.
Even though I feel so lost without …………… beside me everyday, I love and accept myself.
For guilt
Even though I feel that I could have done more to stop …………… from dying, I deeply love and forgive myself for anything I didn’t do.
Even though I should have called the vet earlier and this may have saved ............, I love and forgive myself and accept my limitations.
Even though I know I did the right thing by having ………… put to sleep to stop him (her) from suffering, I still feel guilty. I accept these feelings and deeply love and forgive myself.
Even though the accident was not my fault, I blame myself. I choose to stop feeling guilty and I deeply love and accept myself.
I know these feelings can be overwhelming and disabling. If you would like one-to-one help, please get in touch with me. No charge.


