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EFT and me Tapping points Putting it all together Pain relief Phobias and fears Public speaking Anxiety Grief and Guilt Loss of a Pet Hay Fever Weight control and cravings Snoring and teeth grinding How can I help?
EFT and me Tapping points Putting it all together Pain relief Phobias and fears Public speaking Anxiety Grief and Guilt Loss of a Pet Hay Fever Weight control and cravings Snoring and teeth grinding How can I help?

 

 

EFT Brancepeth

Grief and Guilt

So often these two go together.  When we lose someone, not only by death but also through the break up of a relationship, we not only feel the loss and grieve over that, but mixed in with that is often the feeling of guilt.  Guilt because of some defect in the relationship that was never resolved, guilt that you could have done more, spent more time with the person, or been more forgiving of their irritating faults.  This guilt aspect seems particularly strong when the loss of a pet is involved, and for that reason I have given a separate page to this problem.

 

Grief when you have lost someone close is normal.  EFT can ease this and help resolve the abnormal grief felt by some people, who carry around grief and guilt for many years, resulting in many physical problems of pain, hay fever or general ill-health.  Long term grief and guilt can be dealt with as easily as that related to more recent events.

 

If just thinking about your loss brings tears to your eyes and a lump in your throat, just tap the points without saying anything.  This will calm you down, ready to start.  Take a deep breath and begin tapping.  It is almost certain that you will need to tap for both grief and guilt, so use your intuition to decide which to work on first.

 

For guilt

 

Even though I feel guilty because………… I deeply love and forgive myself.

 

Even though I have no reason to feel guilty about the death of ………… I love and accept all my feelings.

 

Even though I feel I could have done more, I  accept my limitations and failures and love and forgive the person I am.

 

Even though I did all I could for …………, I still feel guilty that I didn’t do more.  I accept these feelings and I love and forgive myself.

 

For grief

 

Even though I miss ………… every day, I accept these feelings of loss and I deeply love and accept myself.

 

Even though I am so miserable without …………, I accept these feelings as natural, and I deeply love myself.

 

Even though I feel so sad when I think of ………… I choose to remember all the good times we had together, and I deeply and completely accept myself.

 

I know these feelings can be overwhelming and disabling.  If you would like one-to-one help, please get in touch with me.  No charge.